[散文]We Have to Say Goodbye

没有玫瑰的芬芳，没有钻戒的世俗，这就是大学恋情——纯情而唯美。毕业生不得不面临六月的来临，也就是向心爱的人道别的时刻。当前途与爱情一同遭遇未来，该如何取舍？六月里的恋人会怎么做呢？

Don’t cry, my baby

There are so many love stories in college. If the lovers met each other by note passed, the story was called “note love”; if they knew each other in fast food restaurant, then “fast food love”; if they became lovers in a picnic, then “picnic love”. Liu Bing got to know Xiao Yu through QQ chat, and they got the so-called “QQ love”.

Their love story started at the end of 2nd Grade. Liu failed again in CET4 test and felt very upset. So he entered an Internet cafe near the school to kill time. While he was roaming about on the net, a stranger asked him through QQ, “May I chat with you?” Then he began chatting with him or her. Liu poured his trouble out and the other side appeased him patiently and asked him not to be discouraged, for there was still chance. After that, they promised to come to chat at 8 every day and it lasted for a week. Liu felt very happy. On the seventh day, the other side asked him, “Do you want to see me?” Liu typed “Yes。” without any hesitation. “Then you can turn your head back.” And Liu saw a lovely girl, whose name is Xiao Yu.

However, with the approaching graduation they also face a difficult choice. Xiao Yu is a local girl and her home is in Wuhan. While Liu Bing comes from Xi’an. They are both the only child in their family. Their parents aren’t against their being together, but both wish their kid being at home. They quarreled about the orientation furiously and the focus of their conflict always was which city they would choose. Xi’an or Wuhan? They were up a gum tree and couldn’t come to terms.

Finally, Liu and Xiao Yu went to the Internet cafe and they were still back to back this time. When Liu typed out “Let’s break up”, Xiao Yu couldn’t restrain her tears any more.

Still a long way to go

Chen Li has been unhappy recently. With the coming of graduation, she’s become even more depressed. She and her boyfriend Jia Hao don’t have a special story; they got to know each other in the library. Both of them enjoy learning and staying in the library. They would go to cinema or walk on the streets at weekends. Three years have passed quietly. They promised to take the postgraduate exam to Beijing at the 3rd grade. Unfortunately, Chen Li failed because of 2 points margin in English.

Jia Hao wanted Chen to go to Beijing with him and take exam there. Considering the economic condition, Chen thought it would be better to stay on campus. On the one hand, the living expense is lower here. On the other hand, she is familiar to the surroundings and can set her heart at studies.

At night, thinking that her lover would leave for Beijing, Chen Li’s tears fell down her cheeks silently, making her pillowslip wet all over. Although Jia Hao encouraged her over and over again that she would succeed at the second try and they would reunion in Beijing, however, he said so at the last time. Will their love still go on in case she fails?共4页，当前第1页1234

A new life for us

Different from those sorrowful lovers, Ye Qing is like a happy bird flying in and out of her dormitory. She and her boyfriend were in the same ClaSs in high school. Fortunately they both came to Beijing though not in the same university. They’re not far from each other, although they can’t be very much in love every day like other love birds. Ye Qing feels contented that they can spend weekends together. Sometimes, Ye Qing would call her boyfriend and asked him to see her in half an hour and bring some snacks passingly.

Her boyfriend majors in the pop Communication. He has been employed by a well-known communicating corporation in Shenzhen. Ye Qing hasn’t found a satisfying job, but they’ve planed that she also goes to Shenzhen to hunt a job. As a major in Economic and Trade English, Ye thinks it not difficult in finding a job such as secretary or assistant. As far as buying house and car, she told us secretly, “He promised that I needn’t consider that kind of things.”

To the moment they have enough time to wile away. Ye has decided it was time to make up for the past 4 years’ loss of romance. Now they’ve been shopping around, going to movies and playing badminton every day. Seeing her boyfriend being “tortured”, Ye felt as happy as a princess in fairy tales.

Point of view

Hu Juan, graduate of 2002

My love came to the end with the coming of graduation. Nobody could taste my sorrow at that time. I felt I lost the man I loved most in the world. Such is not the fact. I worked, fell in love with another guy and then got married. Looking back on my love in college, I found that we were just in the same camp on entertainment. While my husband and I are living our lives.

Liu Xiaoming, graduate of 2003

I’ve been married. Of course, my wife was my girlfriend in the university. We had been in love for 3 years. Compared with other husband and wife, we feel it a superiority to own each other’s past. We would talk about our university life and recall dribs and drabs. Whenever we recollect together, we could feel each other’s heartbeat. And the expression in our eyes would become very gentle. The beautiful memory will always nourish our marriage.

Li Rong, senior

It’s enough that each love starts with a beautiful beginning. As for whether it will come to an end, I feel it unnecessary to think too much. Love out of campus doesn’t always have a happy ending. Therefore, when love comes, we should enjoy the pleasure of loving. When love comes to an end, we could also taste its grief of parting. Tears taste sweet as long as you love your life.

Wang Qin, senior

I don’t have a boyfriend, but some boys are wooing me. I feel they’re not my cup of tea, so I refused. I have a wish that they could give me a hug before I leave by train when I graduate. I admire those who are in love on campus and at the same time I felicitate myself on not choosing at random. During the four years in university, as long as you live in earnest, you won’t regret, whether you own love or not, whether your love has future or not. 共4页，当前第2页1234

毕业了，该分手了

宝贝，别哭

校园里上演着那么多的爱情故事。如果恋人通过纸条表白爱情，就被称为“白条之恋”；如果他们在快餐店里相识、相恋，就叫“快餐之恋”；如果是在野炊时相爱，当然就是“野炊之恋”了。刘冰是通过QQ聊天认识小雨的，也就是所谓的“QQ之恋”。

他们的故事开始于大二下半学期。刚开学，刘冰在四级考试中挂了，没有通过，他非常沮丧，就来到学校附近的网吧打发时间。正当他在网上神游时，突然QQ上有人问a他：“可以和你聊聊吗？”刘冰就和她聊了起来，其实他还不知道对方是男是女。刘冰将自己的苦恼一倾而出，对方就耐心地开导他，说别灰心，还有机会呢。此后，有一个星期，他们约定每天8点来聊天，刘冰觉得很开心。到了第7天，对方问刘冰：“想见面吗？”刘冰没有任何犹豫地打下一个字：“想。”对方说：“那你就回头吧。”于是，刘冰转身就看到了那个可爱的女孩，小雨。

然而，面对毕业，他们却不知道如何选择。小雨的家就在武汉本地，而刘冰来自于西安。作为家里的独生子女，双方父母不反对他们在一起，但都希望儿女能回到自己的身边。他们俩为了毕业后的去向问题吵翻了天，矛盾的焦点是“要留在哪个城市？”。选择西安，还是选择武汉，两人犯难了，而且谁都不肯让步。

最后，刘冰和小雨又去网吧上网聊天，依然是背对背。当刘冰打出“我们分手吧”几个字后，小雨的眼泪再也忍不住了。

路漫漫其修远兮

晨丽最近郁郁寡欢，看着毕业的日子一天天逼近，越来越无精打采。她和男朋友贾皓的故事没有什么特别的，就是在图书馆认识的。两个爱学习的人，最大的乐趣就是泡图书馆，然后在周末去看看电影，逛逛街。三年下来，倒也平淡。大三时他们就约定一起考研到北京，然而晨丽却因英语2分之差落榜了。

贾皓鼓励晨丽和他一起去北京，然后在北京专职考研。然而考虑到两人的经济状况，晨丽还是觉得留在学校再考比较合适，一方面这里的生活费用相对较低，再者自己也熟悉这里的环境，能安心学习。

夜里想着自己心爱的人就要远赴北京了，晨丽的眼泪就无声无息地流出来了，枕巾被打湿了一大片。尽管贾皓一再鼓励她，说她第二次一定会考上的，那时他们就会在北京相聚。可是，第一次考研时贾皓就是这么鼓励她的，万一她第二次还没考上，那么他们的爱情会怎么样呢？

新生活在向我们招手

和那些悲伤的恋人不同，叶晴快乐地像只小鸟，整天从宿舍飞进飞出。她和男友是高中同学，虽然高考没考到同一所学校，但幸运的是都考到了北京，而且两个学校也相距不远。虽然不能像别的恋人一样天天卿卿我我，但能在一起快乐地度过周末，对叶晴来说已经很满足了。有时候，实在忍不住，叶晴就给男友打电话，让他半小时内立即赶到，并且带点零食过来。

男友学的是炙手可热的通讯工程，已经被深圳一家有名的通讯企业录取。虽然叶晴还没有找到工作，但他们已经计划好了，就是叶晴也去深圳，然后在深圳找工作。由于学的是经贸英语，叶晴相信找个秘书、助理之类的工作还是没有问题。至于以后买房子、买车子，她偷偷告诉我们：“他已经答应不用我考虑了。”

正好毕业前这一段时间有大把的时间可以挥霍，叶晴决定把过去4年的浪漫损失弥补回来，天天拉着男友逛商场、看电影、打羽毛球，看着男友被折磨的样子，叶晴幸福得像传说中的公主。

◆观点

扈娟 02届毕业生

我的爱情随着毕业而终结，当时的感伤没有人能体会，感觉天底下最爱的人就这样失去了。事实上不是这样的，我工作了，然后恋爱、结婚。现在回过头来审读大学时代的感情，发现那时的我与他，不过是“玩乐”上的志同道合；而与现在的先生，则是生活上的志同道合。

刘小明 03届毕业生

我已经结婚了，老婆当然是大学热恋三年的女友了。我觉得我们比起其他夫妻最大的优势就是拥有对方的过去，隔段时间我们不由自主就会去谈论大学时光，回忆那时的点点滴滴。每当此时，都能感应到对方的心跳，彼此注视的眼神也变得格外柔软。美好的回忆，将滋养我们以后的婚姻之花。共4页，当前第3页1234

李蓉 大四学生

每一段恋情都以美好开端，这就够了。至于有没有结果，我觉得没必要想那么多。社会上的爱情，也不一定因为美好就有结果啊。所以，爱情来了，我们就享受爱的欢乐；爱情走了，我们就体验爱的离愁。只要热爱生活，泪水也是甜的。

王琴 大四学生

我没有男朋友，不过追求我的男生倒有几个，我觉得他们不适合我，所以一直拒绝着。我有一个奢望，希望毕业时上车的那一刻，能得到他们的一个拥抱。我羡慕那些拥有校园爱情的同学，也为我自己的宁缺勿滥喝彩。大学四年，用心去过了，就无怨无悔，不论有没有爱情，不论爱情有没有未来。

心酸的浪漫

1.不管你曾经多么内向，你一定要在全班同学面前，认认真真地讲一次话，或者唱一支歌，即使你和开学时一样，再介绍一回你自己。

2.拜访一回你最尊敬的老师，在毕业时，认真地记住一条关于人生的经验。

3.在一个太阳还没有升起来的早晨，去操场跑一次步，和那些生猛的大一新生们比较一下懒觉睡多了后体力上的差距。

4.在宿舍里不要有类似于写“某某到此一游”的行为。

5.下定决心，班集体的活动这次一定不会借故溜走——如果还有的话。

6.很认真地穿一次西装(套装)，看看自己和4年前，变化的地方在哪里？

7.花一个下午的时间，认真地整理一次自己的书箱，哪些是可以留的，哪些是不要了的。在某本书里，是不是看见了一张陌生已久的纸条，或者是某人的名字。

8.男生整理衣柜的时候，记得把你的球衣送给你的学弟，CD送给学妹，游戏碟记得自己带走。

9.记得留下每一个你觉得应该是朋友的联系方式，然后把你新单位的电话给他们。

10.终于要走了，再剪一次发，让自己崭崭新新地离开，然后，崭崭新新地开始。

11.记得归还你的证件，陪伴了你4年的桌子、椅子和凳子——我们不提倡你宁愿罚钱也要留下你的图书证、学生证、医疗证、食堂饭卡……但我们对此表示理解。

12.论文答辩可能是你人生当中最后一次的课堂作业了，请你认真地书写每一个字。

13.和你一起睡了4年的床，一定要记得和它合一张影。

14.尽可能地送走每一个你能送的同学，你要明白，他们是你4年的同学，他们中的某人，也许是你最后一次能见到了。